Did you know that racism is a learned behavior in the home? Are you married? What conversations are you having with your spouse? Are you prejudice towards other races? Do you have children? Did you know that you can inadvertently pass those negative and ignorant behaviors on to your children? Research shows that children are products of their environment and they tend to perpetuate those nasty behaviors, which includes treating other ethnic groups unfairly.

The conversation about race, racism, and police brutality has come to the forefront once again. The United States and the rest of world are in uproar, and rightfully so. People are protesting, cites are now under curfew to maintain peace. Why, because of what happened to George Floyd. The video of that one police officer’s knee pressing against his neck as he laid dying. Floyd can be heard saying, “I can’t breathe,” while calling for his mother. Three other officers just stood there, as if George Floyd was not another human bein...

With the COVID-19 pandemic affecting so many marriages and families, how can you enjoy your spouse and family in this difficult season?

The best way to do this is to first examine the relationships around you and then intentionally look for ways to improve those relationships.

Here are five things you can do right now to bring more peace and joy within your home. These five principles are taken from Philippians 4:8. Take some time to think on the following 5 questions about your spouse and your children.

Whatever is true about your spouse/children? Think of your spouse/children the way God thinks of them. For example, think of your spouse as a child of God. Repent if your thinking is not in keeping with the word of God. Then restore and improve.

Whatever is honorable and worthy of respect? Think of your spouse/children as treasures and start treating them as treasures. The idea is for you to have a treasuring attitude towards your spouse and children. Be a need meter to others. Ask...

Did you know that bad communication is the 2nd most common cause for divorce? If your spouse were to say to you right now, “Honey we need to talk!” Would you be happy to talk or would fear come upon you?

And as a result of this fear, a simple, “Honey we need to talk!” turns into a BIG argument. What are you going to do to improve this?

For most married couples… and this is really sad, but it’s true… their odds of becoming an excellent communicator are about as good as their odds of finding a four-leaf clover… in the Gobi desert!

No, not for lack of trying…

… but for lack of knowing.

You can TRY to become an excellent communicator all day long… you can hope your spouse “gets you,” you can take a course on communication, and you can pray until you’re blue in the face…

… but until there’s some method to your madness, you’re just nailing jello to the wall.

So in the spirit of knowledge which *actually* leads to success in this area…

Here are 3 of...

Let’s not kid ourselves, everyone needs LOVE but not everyone understands how to give LOVE. The month of February is known to many as the LOVE month and with valentine’s day in this month, LOVE is usually in the air. Everyone wants to get it right. Everyone wants to LOVE right. However, the only way to LOVE right is to to LEARN how to Love God’s way. It's possible when you learn the secret that I will share with you in this blog. Keep reading.....

Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31 (NKJV) that the two greatest commandments are these, “you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ .... And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Love, love, love. You shall learn to love your spouse as you love yourself. When you have mastered this, you will have mastered LOVING right. It is as simple and as hard as this and I want to help you ...

I know what you are thinking, “How could this be?” But this is the reality for many couples around the holiday season.

For this reason, I understand that sometimes it’s hard being married.

And the difficulties of marriage can easily make you feel tired… discouraged… and even despairing… 

AND it is usually around the holidays, it seems …

That the anger and bitterness can throb so badly…

… that you just start to believe that your spouse is your least favorite person…

 Yes, I said it, "You Least Favorite Person."

If that describes you, or you have been in this season from time to time, keep reading as I would like to help.

The question on the table is this, “What can you do if your spouse happens to be your least favorite person right now?”

Now, if you are a believer of Jesus Christ, and it is your desire to please Him, and you want God’s best for your marriage, then what I am going to share with you is going to make you uncomfortable at first, but hear...

“I didn’t want to do it?” “I tried not to do it?” But after I did it, I was like, “OOPS! Did I do that?” I was truly sorry at what I had done to my spouse. Have you ever been in this place? As a pastoral counselor and coach, I have heard this story from so many couples who are finding it difficult to control their anger.

The bible states in Ecc 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger rest in the bosom of fools.” As much as you may NOT want to admit that you are a fool, uncontrolled anger, makes you do foolish and regrettable things. Being angry does not make you a fool, it’s when you act out in a sinful manner, that’s when you become a fool. It is when you say, OOPS! I didn’t mean to hit you, or I didn’t mean to say all those hurtful things. That’s the OOPS, that makes you a fool and that's the OOPS that allows us to make bad choices.

The picture above demonstrates how your choices or foolish actions in the midst of anger can lead to the demise of yourself, ...

Money! Money! Money! Show Me The Money! My fellow “Marriage Researchers,” how would you like to be a, “Wealth Building Marriage Researcher?” You can, and I want to show you how.

Contrary to what some may believe, wealth creation is an important part in marriage. Deut 8:17-18 is key to understanding this principle. It reads, “Otherwise, you may say in your heart, 'My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.' But you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who is giving you the power to make wealth.” I need you to understand that you should use your God given abilities to create wealth for yourself and your family. The key, however, is remembering God as your source. A quick warning from Prov 10:2. (NLT) is also helpful, “Tainted wealth has no lasting value, but right living can save your life.”

Financial difficulties, in most cases, can add stress to your marriage. In other cases, financial difficulties can hinder growth in your marriage. Many couples are al...

Can you truly experience peace in the midst of a storm, such as a hurricane? Many are in the midst of a category 5 hurricane. Prayers goes out but survival, instead of peace, seem to be on the minds of many. What if, there is a way to experience peace? What if the storm is your marriage? Peace is still possible.

Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Hurricane speaks of trouble and the severity of the damages increases as the category # increases. As a result, homes are destroyed, families are displaced, children are misplaced and in extreme cases, death can occur. Once the storm is over, the damages can be assessed, then rebuilding can occur.

Just as with the case with natural storms, such as hurricanes, marriages go through different storms. Are you and your spouse currently in a storm? Or, is there as storm brewing in your marriage? Is it a category-1 storm like communication issues, or a category-5 storm like chr...

Did you know that in any relationship, and especially marriage, what you think about yourself, your partner, and your relationship can determine if the marriage, or relationship will survive? Why? Because what you think, positively or negatively, controls you and affects others. What you think controls how you act, how you communicate, how you treat your mate and how you view our marriage.

“Negative thinking” can turn a good relationship into a bad one very quickly. You can think your relationship to death. Your relationship may be plagued with negative speaking and negative behavior because of negative thinking. Negative thinking can lead to the death of any relationship, especially your marriage.

Here is what the experts don’t want you to know about your thinking- you can learn how to think your marriage, or any relationship to life. I will show you a step by step approach on how to save your relationship through positive thinking.

The Effects of Negative Thinking

Negative thinki...

If you have ever been stopped dead in your tracks with these words, “Don’t talk to me like that,” trust me, you are not alone. I want to help you position yourself in such a way, so that you can reduce hearing these dreaded words and improve your communication skills, all at once. Here are the best 3 ways to improve your communication now!

1. Adjust your tone. Did you know that tone in which you communicate can determine if an argument may arise? A good proverb to remember is “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Prov. 15:1). Over the years of counseling couples, I have noticed that the spouse who tries to stay calm and collected is eventually instrumental in calming the other spouse down. I have also noticed that the spouse who is loud may have some great, valid and helpful points, is quickly be dismissed because of his or her loud tone. The nugget here is this, you are more likely be given a listening ear is you watch your tone.                         
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