If it is your desire to grow in your relationship with God and with your spouse, then these godly qualities must be desired according to 2 Peter 1:5-9. Once these qualities are applied to your marriage you can expect growth and success in your relationship. As we examine this portion of scripture, we will extract “7 Godly Qualities Every Couple Should Desire.”

2 Peter 1:5-9 (NIV) states,

 ⁵ For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; ⁶ and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; ⁷ and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. ⁸ For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. ⁹ But whoever does not have them is nearsighted and blind, forgetting that they have been cleansed from their past sins.

A husband and wife’s faith in God should be ...

Are you a clinger? Can being a clinger help or hurt your relationship? Is it wise to be a clinger? I understand some may quickly say, "I do not want to be known as a 'clinger,' much less be in a relationship with a 'clinger.'” This response is natural until you understand what I will now share. In this blog, you will see why “clinging,” when understood, can actually be good for your relationship and your marriage.

The word, “cling,” means to be or remain close. Cling also means to be attached or joined. It is from this meaning that many couples see, “clinging” in the relationship as bad. I have heard couples say, “I need some space or I need some me time.” This happens because of a misunderstanding of how a healthy relationship should function and fully understanding how “clinging” relates to the two becoming “one flesh.”

The relationship between “one flesh” and “clinging” is connected to the root meaning of the word, “cling.” The word “cling” derives from the Hebrew word, daw-...

He asked, she said “yes.” She asked, he said “yes.” Regardless of who asked the big question, once agreed, the preparation began and everyone were excited for the “big day.” This big day was the launch of something great. The question is, how do you keep the big launch great?

I believe it is God’s will for marriages to succeed. I believed this journey begun by observing my parents who have been married for over 46 years. I have been married to my beautiful wife now for over 14 years and I can still say after 14 years, we have found ways to keep our big launch GREAT!

As a pastor, I love performing weddings. It brings me much joy when I say, “I now pronounce you, husband and wife.” Such a joyous moment. The husband and wife seem to be so in love and happy. Support from friends and family members are amazing. This is the big launch.

Truth be told, it does not take long after the big launch for marital distress comes into the home. Success come into the marriage when couples le...

Marriage is BIG, but for those of us with children, we would have to agree that parenting is also BIG. As you strive to enrich your relationship with your spouse, it is also important to “Focus on the Family.” This means you must learn how to shift roles from husband and wife to father and mother. Once the roles are switched to father and mother, you must understand what children really need in a family.

The basic needs for children in the family are food, clothing, shelter and education (biblical and academical). Once those are checked off, it is the responsibility of the parents to mold that child to become a full functioning adult who loves God and loves others. The bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; Even when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Prov 22:6). Without kids, this verse seems simple enough but with kids, things can get a little complicated. I know, many parents are nogging their heads in agreement. However, this can change when you understand ...

I know what some of you may be thinking, “Shouldn’t “sexy” be all year round?” But the sad reality is that many couples find themselves neglecting even the “seasonal sexy.” I have coined the term “seasonal sexy” to mean the times a husband or a wife would be intentional about looking their best for a special season or occasion. In this blog, I will explore why physical attraction is an important aspect in keeping your relationship spicy. I will also explore some simple things you can do to keep the “seasonal sexy” going all year long. This will help you to enjoy your spouse.  

The principle of enjoying your spouse comes from the wisest man in bible. Solomon writes, “Enjoy life with your beloved wife during all the days of your fleeting life that God has given you on earth during all your fleeting days; for that is your reward in life and in your burdensome work on earth” (Ecc 9:9). Enjoying your spouse is critical for a healthy and successful marriage. I understand that the pandemi...

Are you a thankful person? Are you a thankful spouse? Are you a thankful parent? Did you know that you can be intentional about being thankful? What does the bible say about being thankful and how is this connected to hopefulness? Let’s get started with a few well known verses.

“In everything, give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1Thess 5:18).

“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful” (Col 3:15). 

“And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Col 3:17).

"Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful” (Col. 4:2).

Just by reading these verses, you will quickly agree that thankfulness is important to God. However, what many do not always understand is how thankfulness is connected to hopefulness. Hence, a thankful heart is a hopeful heart. 

Hope is a critical component in everyone’...

"LOVE does not keep a marriage together." I know, it’s a BOLD statement but keep reading and I will prove it, practically and biblically. Many couples believe love keeps a marriage together, but it’s not love. This is one of the BIGGEST deceptions in marriage.

After 14 years of marriage, numerous hours of research, observing interacting and helping many couples, I have concluded that love does not keep a marriage together but knowledge does. Love does not build and sustain a successful marriage but knowledge does. A successful marriage is the application of your knowledge of God, your knowledge of your spouse, and your knowledge of how to navigate marriage.

Many couples are stuck, not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of knowledge. STUCK, because other things came up that were stronger than their love for each other. It could have been financial difficulties, communication issues, infidelity, abuse or addictions. When you are stuck, you don’t need love, you need ...

I must confess, I use to believe this lie, but not anymore.

The lie most couples believe: Marriage counseling, coaching, and/or mentoring are only NEEDED when couples are in difficult seasons in their marriage. If this were true, the next logical question to ask is, “What about those couples whose marriages are in a good season?” Do these couples wait until a bad season before seeking out help?

Absolutely not.

The truth is, EVERY married couple needs a BLEND of counseling, coaching or mentoring to navigate this wonderful journey of marriage. I have found this blend to be in the form of marriage enrichment.

However, couples who believe the lie that one should only seek out help in difficult seasons in marriage has led many couples to a place of separation or divorce. Some of the reasons for this are as follows:

• Couples often get professional help only as a last resort.
• Couples who wait too long to deal with marital issues lowers their chances of marital restoratio
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Here’s some truth, before I share with you the shocking truth. You would be amazed at how many married couples are lying to themselves about the current state of marriage. It doesn’t matter whether you are in a bad season, or a good season, or a great season in your marriage. The truth is, marriages are under attack. The reason is because marriage is of God and the Devil's plan is to kill, to steal and to destroy marriages.  

Now, here’s the shocking truth, husbands and wives are “selfish.” Your selfishness is hindering your growth and success in your marriage.

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Here’s some more shocking news, your selfishness is hindering you from truly loving your spouse. Take a moment, right now, to reflect on any area in your marriage that needs improvement. Write it down if necessary. Is this issue as a result of selfishness? I can guarantee that selfishness is hindering your improvement. 

The solution is learning how to overcome selfishness. The only proven way to do this is to...

How do you know if your marriage is under spiritual attack or in some cases, under heavy spiritual attack? How can you recognize the demons behind the spiritual attacks? How do to defeat them? These questions will be answered as you keep reading. The contents on this blog is for those who desire to understand spiritual warfare in marriage.

The first thing you need to understand is that everything that happens in the natural visible realm in your marriage, is a result of, is cause by, or influenced by something in the spiritual realm. The easiest way to recognize a spiritual attack is when there is no peace in the marriage and home. The hurts in the marriage has caused the husband to feel disrespected and the wife to feel unloved. It seems like you have tried everything and nothing seems to be working. If this sounds like your marriage, this blog is for you. If this does not sound like your marriage right now, this blog is for you because ALL marriages are subjected to spiritual att...