Have you ever been DISSAPOINTED because of UNMET EXPECTATIONS? Are you at the point where you have lowered your expectations in hopes to lower your disappointments?  Do you sometimes feel that your spouse expects too much from you?

You are not alone. In this blog, you will learn the key to getting what you expect and how this drastically reduces disappointments from unmet expectations.

An expectation is basically a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future. Remember when you were dating, you had certain expectation of him or her. You may have expected to be treated a certain way. Many expected to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect. Many would say, these are healthy expectations.  However, as the relationship grew towards marriage, you may have had certain expectations about each other's  roles and responsibilities. Regardless of your expectations, one thing many relationship experts agree on, is that, “Expectations in a relationsh...

I must confess, I use to believe this lie, but not anymore.

The lie most couples believe: Marriage counseling, coaching, and/or mentoring are only NEEDED when couples are in difficult seasons in their marriage. If this were true, the next logical question to ask is, “What about those couples whose marriages are in a good season?” Do these couples wait until a bad season before seeking out help?

Absolutely not.

The truth is, EVERY married couple needs a BLEND of counseling, coaching or mentoring to navigate this wonderful journey of marriage. I have found this blend to be in the form of marriage enrichment.

However, couples who believe the lie that one should only seek out help in difficult seasons in marriage has led many couples to a place of separation or divorce. Some of the reasons for this are as follows:

• Couples often get professional help only as a last resort.
• Couples who wait too long to deal with marital issues lowers their chances of marital restoratio
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How do you know if your marriage is under spiritual attack or in some cases, under heavy spiritual attack? How can you recognize the demons behind the spiritual attacks? How do to defeat them? These questions will be answered as you keep reading. The contents on this blog is for those who desire to understand spiritual warfare in marriage.

The first thing you need to understand is that everything that happens in the natural visible realm in your marriage, is a result of, is cause by, or influenced by something in the spiritual realm. The easiest way to recognize a spiritual attack is when there is no peace in the marriage and home. The hurts in the marriage has caused the husband to feel disrespected and the wife to feel unloved. It seems like you have tried everything and nothing seems to be working. If this sounds like your marriage, this blog is for you. If this does not sound like your marriage right now, this blog is for you because ALL marriages are subjected to spiritual att...

Did you know that bad communication is the 2nd most common cause for divorce? If your spouse were to say to you right now, “Honey we need to talk!” Would you be happy to talk or would fear come upon you?

And as a result of this fear, a simple, “Honey we need to talk!” turns into a BIG argument. What are you going to do to improve this?

For most married couples… and this is really sad, but it’s true… their odds of becoming an excellent communicator are about as good as their odds of finding a four-leaf clover… in the Gobi desert!

No, not for lack of trying…

… but for lack of knowing.

You can TRY to become an excellent communicator all day long… you can hope your spouse “gets you,” you can take a course on communication, and you can pray until you’re blue in the face…

… but until there’s some method to your madness, you’re just nailing jello to the wall.

So in the spirit of knowledge which *actually* leads to success in this area…

Here are 3 of...

I know what you are thinking, “How could this be?” But this is the reality for many couples around the holiday season.

For this reason, I understand that sometimes it’s hard being married.

And the difficulties of marriage can easily make you feel tired… discouraged… and even despairing… 

AND it is usually around the holidays, it seems …

That the anger and bitterness can throb so badly…

… that you just start to believe that your spouse is your least favorite person…

 Yes, I said it, "You Least Favorite Person."

If that describes you, or you have been in this season from time to time, keep reading as I would like to help.

The question on the table is this, “What can you do if your spouse happens to be your least favorite person right now?”

Now, if you are a believer of Jesus Christ, and it is your desire to please Him, and you want God’s best for your marriage, then what I am going to share with you is going to make you uncomfortable at first, but hear...

“I didn’t want to do it?” “I tried not to do it?” But after I did it, I was like, “OOPS! Did I do that?” I was truly sorry at what I had done to my spouse. Have you ever been in this place? As a pastoral counselor and coach, I have heard this story from so many couples who are finding it difficult to control their anger.

The bible states in Ecc 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger rest in the bosom of fools.” As much as you may NOT want to admit that you are a fool, uncontrolled anger, makes you do foolish and regrettable things. Being angry does not make you a fool, it’s when you act out in a sinful manner, that’s when you become a fool. It is when you say, OOPS! I didn’t mean to hit you, or I didn’t mean to say all those hurtful things. That’s the OOPS, that makes you a fool and that's the OOPS that allows us to make bad choices.

The picture above demonstrates how your choices or foolish actions in the midst of anger can lead to the demise of yourself, ...

Money! Money! Money! Show Me The Money! My fellow “Marriage Researchers,” how would you like to be a, “Wealth Building Marriage Researcher?” You can, and I want to show you how.

Contrary to what some may believe, wealth creation is an important part in marriage. Deut 8:17-18 is key to understanding this principle. It reads, “Otherwise, you may say in your heart, 'My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.' But you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who is giving you the power to make wealth.” I need you to understand that you should use your God given abilities to create wealth for yourself and your family. The key, however, is remembering God as your source. A quick warning from Prov 10:2. (NLT) is also helpful, “Tainted wealth has no lasting value, but right living can save your life.”

Financial difficulties, in most cases, can add stress to your marriage. In other cases, financial difficulties can hinder growth in your marriage. Many couples are al...

Did you know that in any relationship, and especially marriage, what you think about yourself, your partner, and your relationship can determine if the marriage, or relationship will survive? Why? Because what you think, positively or negatively, controls you and affects others. What you think controls how you act, how you communicate, how you treat your mate and how you view our marriage.

“Negative thinking” can turn a good relationship into a bad one very quickly. You can think your relationship to death. Your relationship may be plagued with negative speaking and negative behavior because of negative thinking. Negative thinking can lead to the death of any relationship, especially your marriage.

Here is what the experts don’t want you to know about your thinking- you can learn how to think your marriage, or any relationship to life. I will show you a step by step approach on how to save your relationship through positive thinking.

The Effects of Negative Thinking

Negative thinki...

If you have ever been stopped dead in your tracks with these words, “Don’t talk to me like that,” trust me, you are not alone. I want to help you position yourself in such a way, so that you can reduce hearing these dreaded words and improve your communication skills, all at once. Here are the best 3 ways to improve your communication now!

1. Adjust your tone. Did you know that tone in which you communicate can determine if an argument may arise? A good proverb to remember is “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Prov. 15:1). Over the years of counseling couples, I have noticed that the spouse who tries to stay calm and collected is eventually instrumental in calming the other spouse down. I have also noticed that the spouse who is loud may have some great, valid and helpful points, is quickly be dismissed because of his or her loud tone. The nugget here is this, you are more likely be given a listening ear is you watch your tone.                         
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You have probably heard this saying, “Hard work pays off.” I remembered this statement becoming so real as I walked across the stage to receive my doctoral degree not so long ago. Every year around graduation season, millions of students celebrate the rewards of their hard work. Some students, however, are not able to reap the rewards of their hard work because of various reasons. I believe this is also true in marriage. Hard work pays off as a husband and a wife celebrate the rewards of their hard work. However, it becomes frustrating to a husband or a wife when it seems as though there are no rewards for all their hard work. I have talked with so many couples and I have concluded that, in marriage hard work do pay off, but the rewards are higher for “smart” work. Keep reading as I am going to share with you how to work smart in four key areas in your marriage.  

Husbands, you need to work smart at loving your wife, God’s way. 1 Cor 13:4-7 states, “Love is patient, love is kind. I...