If you have been procrastinating about writing your marriage vision, help is here. In this blog, I will share with you why your marriage vision is important and how to get started in 5 easy steps.

Let’s start with what is a vision or a marriage vision and why it is important? The dictionary defines vision as the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom. A marriage vision is the ability to plan the future of your marriage with imagination or wisdom.

To answer the question of, “Why vision is important?” we can gleam great insights for Proverbs 29:18- (KJV) which states, “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” The (NIV) versions brings clarity to this great insight, “Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint; but blessed is the one who heeds wisdom’s instruction.” The revelation is simply this. Where there is no marriage vision, your marriage will perish.

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A new year is a new season and a great opportunity for a new vision. Many of us use this time to reflect on the previous year and to set new goals, commonly known as, new year’s resolutions. Many are excited to set the new year’s resolutions on Jan 1^st and then slowly watch the excitement level drop by midnight of Jan 1^st (smile). I know, I’m not the best at keeping new year’s resolutions either. However, what I have found is that having a vision for your life and for your family is stronger and more motivating than making resolutions. In this blog, I will share with you five areas you should consider when writing your vision so that you can greatly enhance your quality of living.

This first thing you must understand is that having a vision is tapping into your ability to think about or plan for your future with wisdom. Your vision should be connected to your God given purpose. Vision is important because, “where there is no vision, the people perish” (Prov 29:18). Vision allows yo...

It’s the holiday season and guess who’s coming to the family dinner? It may be one of your least favorite family members because of previous conflicts. It may be that family member you were avoiding because of personal reasons. What if the conflicted person everyone else is avoiding is you? In this blog, I will share my top tips for reducing family conflicts during the holiday season so you can experience more peace, love, joy and happiness.

Tip #1- Reach out before you meet up. It can be beneficial to have a conversation with the person in conflict with before the family meet up. Romans 12:18 states, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (NIV). If someone has offended you, be the one to reach out by using this simple script. You can say, “I care for you and our relationship. When this ____ was done/said, it really hurt/offended me. I wanted us to use this opportunity to talk about it even though I have chosen to forgive you for hurting/offen...

Have you ever been tempted to do something wrong or unwise? Sure, you have! Have you ever had the desire to touch someone that you knew could cause issues in your relationship? Sure, you have! The difference between a husband or a wife who is able to over any temptation is the one who understands the deception of temptation and the process involved. If you have never been in situations where you have been tempted, now is the time to repent and come clean (smile).

The truth is, none of us are exempt from temptation. Whether, it’s from the coworker, the friendly mail person, a high school sweetheart, a stranger or a church member, we are all susceptible to temptation. This blog will equip you to understand why temptation is so deceptive and how to overcome it.

Let’s start with a simple dictionary definition. Temptation is “the desire to do something, especially something wrong or unwise. Many can identify with this definition because we were all tempted at one time or another. Th...

A husband once told his wife, “Honey, you are my #1 priority!” She smiled and responded, “That’s what you say, but that’s not how I feel.” “Ouch!” Sadly, the reverse is also true when a wife may say that her husband is top priority, but he doesn’t feel like he is.

If you can identify, you may have every intention to make your spouse feel like top priority but to no avail. I’m here to help. If you are currently not feeling like top priority or not sure, keep reading.

This blog is going to show you why making your spouse feel like top priority is important, the signs you may not be top priority in your relationship and a simple way to start prioritizing your spouse so you can confidently say, “Honey, you are indeed my #1” and the response will be, "Honey, I do feel like your #1."

So why is making your spouse TOP priority important? It is important because it minimizes selfishness and maximizes humility. You are able to give more of yourself, physically and emotionally. In hum...

Caught your attention? Good! But really, emotions are dumb and I will prove it to you. If you are in a relationship where it seems like negative emotions are causing more harm than good, or if it is your desire to learn how emotions work, this blog is for you. I will explain why emotions are DUMB and how you can take back control of your life which will then help enrich any relationship, including your marriage.

If you are honest, you would have to agree that your emotional state affects you and the people around you. Your emotions can be generated from within or they can be unloaded on you from someone else. This means that if you are in a bad mood, you can actually unload your emotions on your spouse and children. Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood it can seem like the whole house is in a bad mood? The reason for this is because emotions fill up our space. Emotions can be positive (joy, peace, love) or negative (angry, sad, scared) and the feelings associated w...

The future success of any marriage is highly dependent on a husband and a wife finding their unique purpose. Do you know your purpose? Do you know the power in your purpose?  In this blog, you will learn how to find your purpose and how to tap into the power so that your future is better and brighter.

Let's start by defining purpose. Purpose means the reason for which something is done or created or the reason for which something exists.

The simplest way to find the purpose of something, is to go back to its creator. For example, to find out the purpose of a cell phone, you would check out it’s manual. WHY? Because the person who created the cell phone knows its purpose and its special functionalities and reveals them in its manual. The same goes for everything else, including marriage. To find out the purpose of a husband or a wife, we need to go the manual. As believers, the manual is the Bible and the creator is God.

In the manual, God says, “Before I formed you in the w...

Decisions, decisions, decision! At various points in your life and in your relationships, you will be faced with making tough decisions. However tough or easy the situation is, bad decisions can leave you feeling sad or unhappy. Decisions are not always easy to make but with some guidance, you can make more informed and wiser decisions. In this blog, I will share with you 3 important things to consider when making decisions.

As a couple, prayers are always important. Tough decision should be brought to the Lord in prayers. You should ask for wisdom, knowledge and understanding for the decision to be made. You should also pray for peace and unity in the relationship as you schedule a time to discuss the issue or issues at hand.

The first thing to consider is that there must be an agreed time to discussed the issue. An agreed upon time allow both persons to be present and engaged in the discussion. When this step is missing, discussion can easily turn into arguments. Make setting...

Fathers, are you sitting down? Feels good right? How is your view? Now stand up. How is your view now? If you did this exercise, you would have to agree that even though the view while standing was wider and further, you would rather be sitting down. Some fathers may argue otherwise.

However, in this blog, I will show you the how the correct understanding of the word father will accelerate your growth and your presence will be appreciated in your home. In addition, as a father, when you do sit down, it will be a time to truly enjoy your wife and your children. Wives, if you are reading this (don’t worry, it’s okay), please forward to your husband or any father you may know, because most men do not fully understand what I will now share.

Boys may be boys, men may be men, but fathers must learn how to be a father. The bible says, “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1 Cor 13:1...

Have you ever been DISSAPOINTED because of UNMET EXPECTATIONS? Are you at the point where you have lowered your expectations in hopes to lower your disappointments?  Do you sometimes feel that your spouse expects too much from you?

You are not alone. In this blog, you will learn the key to getting what you expect and how this drastically reduces disappointments from unmet expectations.

An expectation is basically a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future. Remember when you were dating, you had certain expectation of him or her. You may have expected to be treated a certain way. Many expected to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect. Many would say, these are healthy expectations.  However, as the relationship grew towards marriage, you may have had certain expectations about each other's  roles and responsibilities. Regardless of your expectations, one thing many relationship experts agree on, is that, “Expectations in a relationsh...