Decision-Making Guide for Couples
Decisions, decisions, decision! At various points in your life and in your relationships, you will be faced with making tough decisions. However tough or easy the situation is, bad decisions can leave you feeling sad or unhappy. Decisions are not always easy to make but with some guidance, you can make more informed and wiser decisions. In this blog, I will share with you 3 important things to consider when making decisions.
As a couple, prayers are always important. Tough decision should be brought to the Lord in prayers. You should ask for wisdom, knowledge and understanding for the decision to be made. You should also pray for peace and unity in the relationship as you schedule a time to discuss the issue or issues at hand.
The first thing to consider is that there must be an agreed time to discussed the issue. An agreed upon time allow both persons to be present and engaged in the discussion. When this step is missing, discussion can easily turn into arguments. Make setting an agreed time a priority.
The second thing is to do your research about the pros and cons of the decision to be made. Seek out biblical council. When you follow the principles of the Bible, God guides your path and provides knowledge to make wise choices. Seeking out godly counsel from friends, family or a pastor can also be helpful. Proverbs 15:22 says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”
As both partners come to the meeting fully prepared, the issue needs to be defined in a clear and understandable manner. It is critical that couples discuss and brainstorm ideas together without attacking each other’s ideas.
The third thing is to understand that you will have to make the decision after the discussion and trust the Lord with your decision. Once you have followed the first two steps and you have made your decision with prayer, sound wisdom, and biblical counsel, trust the Lord for the outcome. It is important to understand that you may need to revisit the decision sometime in future to analyze the outcome. At this future meeting, you may need to admit any mistakes and adjust accordingly if the decision did not produced the desired outcome.
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By. Dr. Delroy Fredericks