If you have been procrastinating about writing your marriage vision, help is here. In this blog, I will share with you why your marriage vision is important and how to get started in 5 easy steps.

Let’s start with what is a vision or a marriage vision and why it is important? The dictionary defines vision as the ability to think about or plan the future with imagination or wisdom. A marriage vision is the ability to plan the future of your marriage with imagination or wisdom.

To answer the question of, “Why vision is important?” we can gleam great insights for Proverbs 29:18- (KJV) which states, “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” The (NIV) versions brings clarity to this great insight, “Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint; but blessed is the one who heeds wisdom’s instruction.” The revelation is simply this. Where there is no marriage vision, your marriage will perish.

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Have you ever been tempted to do something wrong or unwise? Sure, you have! Have you ever had the desire to touch someone that you knew could cause issues in your relationship? Sure, you have! The difference between a husband or a wife who is able to over any temptation is the one who understands the deception of temptation and the process involved. If you have never been in situations where you have been tempted, now is the time to repent and come clean (smile).

The truth is, none of us are exempt from temptation. Whether, it’s from the coworker, the friendly mail person, a high school sweetheart, a stranger or a church member, we are all susceptible to temptation. This blog will equip you to understand why temptation is so deceptive and how to overcome it.

Let’s start with a simple dictionary definition. Temptation is “the desire to do something, especially something wrong or unwise. Many can identify with this definition because we were all tempted at one time or another. Th...

A husband once told his wife, “Honey, you are my #1 priority!” She smiled and responded, “That’s what you say, but that’s not how I feel.” “Ouch!” Sadly, the reverse is also true when a wife may say that her husband is top priority, but he doesn’t feel like he is.

If you can identify, you may have every intention to make your spouse feel like top priority but to no avail. I’m here to help. If you are currently not feeling like top priority or not sure, keep reading.

This blog is going to show you why making your spouse feel like top priority is important, the signs you may not be top priority in your relationship and a simple way to start prioritizing your spouse so you can confidently say, “Honey, you are indeed my #1” and the response will be, "Honey, I do feel like your #1."

So why is making your spouse TOP priority important? It is important because it minimizes selfishness and maximizes humility. You are able to give more of yourself, physically and emotionally. In hum...

Decisions, decisions, decision! At various points in your life and in your relationships, you will be faced with making tough decisions. However tough or easy the situation is, bad decisions can leave you feeling sad or unhappy. Decisions are not always easy to make but with some guidance, you can make more informed and wiser decisions. In this blog, I will share with you 3 important things to consider when making decisions.

As a couple, prayers are always important. Tough decision should be brought to the Lord in prayers. You should ask for wisdom, knowledge and understanding for the decision to be made. You should also pray for peace and unity in the relationship as you schedule a time to discuss the issue or issues at hand.

The first thing to consider is that there must be an agreed time to discussed the issue. An agreed upon time allow both persons to be present and engaged in the discussion. When this step is missing, discussion can easily turn into arguments. Make setting...

Fathers, are you sitting down? Feels good right? How is your view? Now stand up. How is your view now? If you did this exercise, you would have to agree that even though the view while standing was wider and further, you would rather be sitting down. Some fathers may argue otherwise.

However, in this blog, I will show you the how the correct understanding of the word father will accelerate your growth and your presence will be appreciated in your home. In addition, as a father, when you do sit down, it will be a time to truly enjoy your wife and your children. Wives, if you are reading this (don’t worry, it’s okay), please forward to your husband or any father you may know, because most men do not fully understand what I will now share.

Boys may be boys, men may be men, but fathers must learn how to be a father. The bible says, “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” (1 Cor 13:1...

Have you ever been DISSAPOINTED because of UNMET EXPECTATIONS? Are you at the point where you have lowered your expectations in hopes to lower your disappointments?  Do you sometimes feel that your spouse expects too much from you?

You are not alone. In this blog, you will learn the key to getting what you expect and how this drastically reduces disappointments from unmet expectations.

An expectation is basically a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future. Remember when you were dating, you had certain expectation of him or her. You may have expected to be treated a certain way. Many expected to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect. Many would say, these are healthy expectations.  However, as the relationship grew towards marriage, you may have had certain expectations about each other's  roles and responsibilities. Regardless of your expectations, one thing many relationship experts agree on, is that, “Expectations in a relationsh...

He asked, she said “yes.” She asked, he said “yes.” Regardless of who asked the big question, once agreed, the preparation began and everyone were excited for the “big day.” This big day was the launch of something great. The question is, how do you keep the big launch great?

I believe it is God’s will for marriages to succeed. I believed this journey begun by observing my parents who have been married for over 46 years. I have been married to my beautiful wife now for over 14 years and I can still say after 14 years, we have found ways to keep our big launch GREAT!

As a pastor, I love performing weddings. It brings me much joy when I say, “I now pronounce you, husband and wife.” Such a joyous moment. The husband and wife seem to be so in love and happy. Support from friends and family members are amazing. This is the big launch.

Truth be told, it does not take long after the big launch for marital distress comes into the home. Success come into the marriage when couples le...

I know what some of you may be thinking, “Shouldn’t “sexy” be all year round?” But the sad reality is that many couples find themselves neglecting even the “seasonal sexy.” I have coined the term “seasonal sexy” to mean the times a husband or a wife would be intentional about looking their best for a special season or occasion. In this blog, I will explore why physical attraction is an important aspect in keeping your relationship spicy. I will also explore some simple things you can do to keep the “seasonal sexy” going all year long. This will help you to enjoy your spouse.  

The principle of enjoying your spouse comes from the wisest man in bible. Solomon writes, “Enjoy life with your beloved wife during all the days of your fleeting life that God has given you on earth during all your fleeting days; for that is your reward in life and in your burdensome work on earth” (Ecc 9:9). Enjoying your spouse is critical for a healthy and successful marriage. I understand that the pandemi...

Are you a thankful person? Are you a thankful spouse? Are you a thankful parent? Did you know that you can be intentional about being thankful? What does the bible say about being thankful and how is this connected to hopefulness? Let’s get started with a few well known verses.

“In everything, give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1Thess 5:18).

“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful” (Col 3:15). 

“And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Col 3:17).

"Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful” (Col. 4:2).

Just by reading these verses, you will quickly agree that thankfulness is important to God. However, what many do not always understand is how thankfulness is connected to hopefulness. Hence, a thankful heart is a hopeful heart. 

Hope is a critical component in everyone’...

Here’s some truth, before I share with you the shocking truth. You would be amazed at how many married couples are lying to themselves about the current state of marriage. It doesn’t matter whether you are in a bad season, or a good season, or a great season in your marriage. The truth is, marriages are under attack. The reason is because marriage is of God and the Devil's plan is to kill, to steal and to destroy marriages.  

Now, here’s the shocking truth, husbands and wives are “selfish.” Your selfishness is hindering your growth and success in your marriage.

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Here’s some more shocking news, your selfishness is hindering you from truly loving your spouse. Take a moment, right now, to reflect on any area in your marriage that needs improvement. Write it down if necessary. Is this issue as a result of selfishness? I can guarantee that selfishness is hindering your improvement. 

The solution is learning how to overcome selfishness. The only proven way to do this is to...