It’s the holiday season and guess who’s coming to the family dinner? It may be one of your least favorite family members because of previous conflicts. It may be that family member you were avoiding because of personal reasons. What if the conflicted person everyone else is avoiding is you? In this blog, I will share my top tips for reducing family conflicts during the holiday season so you can experience more peace, love, joy and happiness.

Tip #1- Reach out before you meet up. It can be beneficial to have a conversation with the person in conflict with before the family meet up. Romans 12:18 states, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (NIV). If someone has offended you, be the one to reach out by using this simple script. You can say, “I care for you and our relationship. When this ____ was done/said, it really hurt/offended me. I wanted us to use this opportunity to talk about it even though I have chosen to forgive you for hurting/offen...

Caught your attention? Good! But really, emotions are dumb and I will prove it to you. If you are in a relationship where it seems like negative emotions are causing more harm than good, or if it is your desire to learn how emotions work, this blog is for you. I will explain why emotions are DUMB and how you can take back control of your life which will then help enrich any relationship, including your marriage.

If you are honest, you would have to agree that your emotional state affects you and the people around you. Your emotions can be generated from within or they can be unloaded on you from someone else. This means that if you are in a bad mood, you can actually unload your emotions on your spouse and children. Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood it can seem like the whole house is in a bad mood? The reason for this is because emotions fill up our space. Emotions can be positive (joy, peace, love) or negative (angry, sad, scared) and the feelings associated w...

Are you a thankful person? Are you a thankful spouse? Are you a thankful parent? Did you know that you can be intentional about being thankful? What does the bible say about being thankful and how is this connected to hopefulness? Let’s get started with a few well known verses.

“In everything, give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1Thess 5:18).

“And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful” (Col 3:15). 

“And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Col 3:17).

"Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful” (Col. 4:2).

Just by reading these verses, you will quickly agree that thankfulness is important to God. However, what many do not always understand is how thankfulness is connected to hopefulness. Hence, a thankful heart is a hopeful heart. 

Hope is a critical component in everyone’...

Did you know that racism is a learned behavior in the home? Are you married? What conversations are you having with your spouse? Are you prejudice towards other races? Do you have children? Did you know that you can inadvertently pass those negative and ignorant behaviors on to your children? Research shows that children are products of their environment and they tend to perpetuate those nasty behaviors, which includes treating other ethnic groups unfairly.

The conversation about race, racism, and police brutality has come to the forefront once again. The United States and the rest of world are in uproar, and rightfully so. People are protesting, cites are now under curfew to maintain peace. Why, because of what happened to George Floyd. The video of that one police officer’s knee pressing against his neck as he laid dying. Floyd can be heard saying, “I can’t breathe,” while calling for his mother. Three other officers just stood there, as if George Floyd was not another human bein...

Can you truly experience peace in the midst of a storm, such as a hurricane? Many are in the midst of a category 5 hurricane. Prayers goes out but survival, instead of peace, seem to be on the minds of many. What if, there is a way to experience peace? What if the storm is your marriage? Peace is still possible.

Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Hurricane speaks of trouble and the severity of the damages increases as the category # increases. As a result, homes are destroyed, families are displaced, children are misplaced and in extreme cases, death can occur. Once the storm is over, the damages can be assessed, then rebuilding can occur.

Just as with the case with natural storms, such as hurricanes, marriages go through different storms. Are you and your spouse currently in a storm? Or, is there as storm brewing in your marriage? Is it a category-1 storm like communication issues, or a category-5 storm like chr...

I am sure that everyone has a deep desire for ORDER in your Home and even more so, if you have children. Every home has structure. Where ever there is structure, there is order. Where ever there is order, there are people placed to positions.

In marriage, there is structure and order. God’s structure and order for the family is, “Christ is head of man, man is head of wife, then the children follow” (1 Cor 11:3). God has placed the husband, wife, and children in different positions in the family, so that when working together, the family will experience peace, joy and happiness.   

Structure and order also include rulership. After God created this great universe, he then created man and said, “have dominion over,” or rule over. It was at this time, responsibility was given. So, because the structure and order on the home is, Christ is head of man, man is head of wife, then the children follow,” then there must be responsibilities attached to the husband, the wife, and the childr...