Caught your attention? Good! But really, emotions are dumb and I will prove it to you. If you are in a relationship where it seems like negative emotions are causing more harm than good, or if it is your desire to learn how emotions work, this blog is for you. I will explain why emotions are DUMB and how you can take back control of your life which will then help enrich any relationship, including your marriage.

If you are honest, you would have to agree that your emotional state affects you and the people around you. Your emotions can be generated from within or they can be unloaded on you from someone else. This means that if you are in a bad mood, you can actually unload your emotions on your spouse and children. Have you ever noticed that when you are in a bad mood it can seem like the whole house is in a bad mood? The reason for this is because emotions fill up our space. Emotions can be positive (joy, peace, love) or negative (angry, sad, scared) and the feelings associated w...

“I didn’t want to do it?” “I tried not to do it?” But after I did it, I was like, “OOPS! Did I do that?” I was truly sorry at what I had done to my spouse. Have you ever been in this place? As a pastoral counselor and coach, I have heard this story from so many couples who are finding it difficult to control their anger.

The bible states in Ecc 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger rest in the bosom of fools.” As much as you may NOT want to admit that you are a fool, uncontrolled anger, makes you do foolish and regrettable things. Being angry does not make you a fool, it’s when you act out in a sinful manner, that’s when you become a fool. It is when you say, OOPS! I didn’t mean to hit you, or I didn’t mean to say all those hurtful things. That’s the OOPS, that makes you a fool and that's the OOPS that allows us to make bad choices.

The picture above demonstrates how your choices or foolish actions in the midst of anger can lead to the demise of yourself, ...