“I didn’t want to do it?” “I tried not to do it?” But after I did it, I was like, “OOPS! Did I do that?” I was truly sorry at what I had done to my spouse. Have you ever been in this place? As a pastoral counselor and coach, I have heard this story from so many couples who are finding it difficult to control their anger.

The bible states in Ecc 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger rest in the bosom of fools.” As much as you may NOT want to admit that you are a fool, uncontrolled anger, makes you do foolish and regrettable things. Being angry does not make you a fool, it’s when you act out in a sinful manner, that’s when you become a fool. It is when you say, OOPS! I didn’t mean to hit you, or I didn’t mean to say all those hurtful things. That’s the OOPS, that makes you a fool and that's the OOPS that allows us to make bad choices.

The picture above demonstrates how your choices or foolish actions in the midst of anger can lead to the demise of yourself, ...