Is Your Spouse Your #1 Priority?

A husband once told his wife, “Honey, you are my #1 priority!” She smiled and responded, “That’s what you say, but that’s not how I feel.” “Ouch!” Sadly, the reverse is also true when a wife may say that her husband is top priority, but he doesn’t feel like he is.

 

If you can identify, you may have every intention to make your spouse feel like top priority but to no avail. I’m here to help. If you are currently not feeling like top priority or not sure, keep reading.

 

This blog is going to show you why making your spouse feel like top priority is important, the signs you may not be top priority in your relationship and a simple way to start prioritizing your spouse so you can confidently say, “Honey, you are indeed my #1” and the response will be, "Honey, I do feel like your #1."

 

So why is making your spouse TOP priority important? It is important because it minimizes selfishness and maximizes humility. You are able to give more of yourself, physically and emotionally. In humility, you are able to give up to right to always wanting to be right, just to prove a point. Humility fosters an atmosphere for peace and tranquility in the home.

 

Making your spouse feel like top priority also promotes selflessness which allows your spouse to feel valued. Research has shown that when someone feels valued, they feel loved. When a spouse feels loved, the possibilities the that relationship for connectedness are endless. To help maximize your possibilities, you must learn to recognize what is happening in your relationship at any given time so you can adjust as needed.

 

Here is a list of some common signs that you may not be top priority in your relationship.

• If your spouse is so busy even for you, this is a sign because busy persons find time for the ones who matter the most.
• If your spouse make you feel alone even when together in same space (always talking/texting on phone, social media etc.), this is a sign.
• If your spouse has a tendency to show up late, cancel last minute and/or exclude you from activities, this is another sign.
• If your spouse does not remember special occasions, such as birthdays and anniversaries, this may be a sign.

 

If you are beginning to sense that you may not be top priority in your relationship or you feel that you have contributed to your spouse not feeling like top priority, you are not alone. Many couples experience these seasons in their marriage. The good news is, seasons change and you can change your season beginning today if you do the following:

 

• Recognize if you have not been making your spouse a priority and humbly repent of your selfishness.
• Analyze the sources that is causing you to take time away from your spouse.
• Decide some things you will say NO to.
• Prioritize by letting kids and others know your spouse is top priority.
• Connect by implementing a calendar of things you can do to connect with your spouse.

 

If you would like to get the step-by-step guide, worksheets, and detailed explanations on each of the 5 practical steps to connecting to your spouse, become a part of the growing Hope Conquers Marriage Enrichment Institute community by starting your free trial today and get instant access to the marriage enrichment training called, “How to Make your Spouse Feel Like Top Priority.” You will also get the opportunity to be a part of our LIVE monthly Q&A trainings to get all your questions answered.

 

Applying what you have learned will take your relationship to the next level and you will feel more of a priority as you work on making your spouse feel like top priority.

 

If you have found this information helpful, please share with other couple. For more relationship and marriage tools, tips and resources, visit www.hopeconquersd.com

 

Hope to see you on the inside! 

 

 

By Dr. Delroy Fredericks