Love Does Not Keep a Marriage Together

"LOVE does not keep a marriage together." I know, it’s a BOLD statement but keep reading and I will prove it, practically and biblically. Many couples believe love keeps a marriage together, but it’s not love. This is one of the BIGGEST deceptions in marriage.

 

After 14 years of marriage, numerous hours of research, observing interacting and helping many couples, I have concluded that love does not keep a marriage together but knowledge does. Love does not build and sustain a successful marriage but knowledge does. A successful marriage is the application of your knowledge of God, your knowledge of your spouse, and your knowledge of how to navigate marriage.

 

Many couples are stuck, not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of knowledge. STUCK, because other things came up that were stronger than their love for each other. It could have been financial difficulties, communication issues, infidelity, abuse or addictions. When you are stuck, you don’t need love, you need knowledge.

  

Knowledge is so important that God said, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (Hos 4:6). May I suggest to you that marriages are being destroyed for the lack of knowledge.

 

Then the verse continues, “Because you have rejected knowledge.” Did you know that you can choose to be ignorant? You do this when you are exposed to knowledge and you choose not to make use of the information or fail to apply it. You may hear a marriage nugget and say, that’s not for me. That’s rejection. There may be a marriage seminar, workshop, or marriage enrichment course you know about and you choose not to show up. What even worse, you may even be currently going through hell in your marriage, and yet you are choosing to reject knowledge.

 

And God says, when you reject knowledge…..

 

“I also will reject you from being priest for Me;

Because you have forgotten the law of your God,

I also will forget your children.”

 

Wow--- a lack of knowledge not only affects you, but it affects your children. Chances are if you fail at your marriage, your children will also. That is not God’s will. The answer is not love, but knowledge.

 

Knowledge is what keeps a marriage together. Knowledge is what builds a strong and successful marriage.

 

BUT knowledge comes as a package. And it is from this package, you will have all that it takes to navigate this wonderful journey called marriage.

 

Prov 24:3-4 states, "By wisdom a house is built and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures."

 

The package includes, knowledge, understanding and wisdom. This package will transform your marriage when you understand what each means.

 

Knowledge- this is information. However, you should be careful where you get your information from. Some couples get wrong information from television shows. Some couples get wrong information from single people. Some couples get wrong information from people who don’t know how to keep a relationship.

 

Understanding- this is how you comprehend the information and apply it to your specific situation. Teachings can help you to understand information. For example, you may get the knowledge that you should love your spouse as you love yourself, but do you understand what that means? Do you understand that this entails, loving yourself, forgiving yourself, forgiving your spouse before even loving spouse?

 

Another example.  You may get the knowledge that a husband needs to love his wife and a wife needs to respect her husband but do you understand that love to man is different than love to a woman? Understanding will allow you to know that women receives love as respect and men receives respect as love.

 

Understanding is very important. Do you really understand what it means to be a woman/wife, a man/husband? Do you understand how to handle anger, infidelity, or conflicts? First knowledge, then understanding, and then wisdom.

 

Wisdom- this is the application of your understanding of a specific situation. It is your ability to apply knowledge effectively.

  

Prov 4:7 states, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”

 

Now that I have proven to you that love does not keep a marriage together, but knowledge does, the question on the table is, “where to get the right knowledge.” May I suggest that you should consider the Total Marriage Transformation (TMT) experience. The TMT experience gives you all that knowledge and understanding needed to succeed in your marriage. You will get the knowledge, understanding and wisdom needed for:

A clearer marriage vision, better communication and conflict resolution skills, increased intimacy, wealth creation and more!

 

If this has been helpful to you,  click to schedule a FREE TMT session for more information and to see if you may be a right fit for the TMT experience. Also, please share with every married couple you may know. It's not love, but KNOWLEDGE that will make your marriage succeed.