Marriage is BIG, but for those of us with children, we would have to agree that parenting is also BIG. As you strive to enrich your relationship with your spouse, it is also important to “Focus on the Family.” This means you must learn how to shift roles from husband and wife to father and mother. Once the roles are switched to father and mother, you must understand what children really need in a family.

The basic needs for children in the family are food, clothing, shelter and education (biblical and academical). Once those are checked off, it is the responsibility of the parents to mold that child to become a full functioning adult who loves God and loves others. The bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; Even when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Prov 22:6). Without kids, this verse seems simple enough but with kids, things can get a little complicated. I know, many parents are nogging their heads in agreement. However, this can change when you understand ...

Here’s some truth, before I share with you the shocking truth. You would be amazed at how many married couples are lying to themselves about the current state of marriage. It doesn’t matter whether you are in a bad season, or a good season, or a great season in your marriage. The truth is, marriages are under attack. The reason is because marriage is of God and the Devil's plan is to kill, to steal and to destroy marriages.  

Now, here’s the shocking truth, husbands and wives are “selfish.” Your selfishness is hindering your growth and success in your marriage.

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Here’s some more shocking news, your selfishness is hindering you from truly loving your spouse. Take a moment, right now, to reflect on any area in your marriage that needs improvement. Write it down if necessary. Is this issue as a result of selfishness? I can guarantee that selfishness is hindering your improvement. 

The solution is learning how to overcome selfishness. The only proven way to do this is to...

How do you know if your marriage is under spiritual attack or in some cases, under heavy spiritual attack? How can you recognize the demons behind the spiritual attacks? How do to defeat them? These questions will be answered as you keep reading. The contents on this blog is for those who desire to understand spiritual warfare in marriage.

The first thing you need to understand is that everything that happens in the natural visible realm in your marriage, is a result of, is cause by, or influenced by something in the spiritual realm. The easiest way to recognize a spiritual attack is when there is no peace in the marriage and home. The hurts in the marriage has caused the husband to feel disrespected and the wife to feel unloved. It seems like you have tried everything and nothing seems to be working. If this sounds like your marriage, this blog is for you. If this does not sound like your marriage right now, this blog is for you because ALL marriages are subjected to spiritual att...

Did you know that bad communication is the 2nd most common cause for divorce? If your spouse were to say to you right now, “Honey we need to talk!” Would you be happy to talk or would fear come upon you?

And as a result of this fear, a simple, “Honey we need to talk!” turns into a BIG argument. What are you going to do to improve this?

For most married couples… and this is really sad, but it’s true… their odds of becoming an excellent communicator are about as good as their odds of finding a four-leaf clover… in the Gobi desert!

No, not for lack of trying…

… but for lack of knowing.

You can TRY to become an excellent communicator all day long… you can hope your spouse “gets you,” you can take a course on communication, and you can pray until you’re blue in the face…

… but until there’s some method to your madness, you’re just nailing jello to the wall.

So in the spirit of knowledge which *actually* leads to success in this area…

Here are 3 of...

Let’s not kid ourselves, everyone needs LOVE but not everyone understands how to give LOVE. The month of February is known to many as the LOVE month and with valentine’s day in this month, LOVE is usually in the air. Everyone wants to get it right. Everyone wants to LOVE right. However, the only way to LOVE right is to to LEARN how to Love God’s way. It's possible when you learn the secret that I will share with you in this blog. Keep reading.....

Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31 (NKJV) that the two greatest commandments are these, “you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ .... And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Love, love, love. You shall learn to love your spouse as you love yourself. When you have mastered this, you will have mastered LOVING right. It is as simple and as hard as this and I want to help you ...

“I didn’t want to do it?” “I tried not to do it?” But after I did it, I was like, “OOPS! Did I do that?” I was truly sorry at what I had done to my spouse. Have you ever been in this place? As a pastoral counselor and coach, I have heard this story from so many couples who are finding it difficult to control their anger.

The bible states in Ecc 7:9 “Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger rest in the bosom of fools.” As much as you may NOT want to admit that you are a fool, uncontrolled anger, makes you do foolish and regrettable things. Being angry does not make you a fool, it’s when you act out in a sinful manner, that’s when you become a fool. It is when you say, OOPS! I didn’t mean to hit you, or I didn’t mean to say all those hurtful things. That’s the OOPS, that makes you a fool and that's the OOPS that allows us to make bad choices.

The picture above demonstrates how your choices or foolish actions in the midst of anger can lead to the demise of yourself, ...

Money! Money! Money! Show Me The Money! My fellow “Marriage Researchers,” how would you like to be a, “Wealth Building Marriage Researcher?” You can, and I want to show you how.

Contrary to what some may believe, wealth creation is an important part in marriage. Deut 8:17-18 is key to understanding this principle. It reads, “Otherwise, you may say in your heart, 'My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.' But you shall remember the LORD your God, for it is He who is giving you the power to make wealth.” I need you to understand that you should use your God given abilities to create wealth for yourself and your family. The key, however, is remembering God as your source. A quick warning from Prov 10:2. (NLT) is also helpful, “Tainted wealth has no lasting value, but right living can save your life.”

Financial difficulties, in most cases, can add stress to your marriage. In other cases, financial difficulties can hinder growth in your marriage. Many couples are al...

Can you truly experience peace in the midst of a storm, such as a hurricane? Many are in the midst of a category 5 hurricane. Prayers goes out but survival, instead of peace, seem to be on the minds of many. What if, there is a way to experience peace? What if the storm is your marriage? Peace is still possible.

Jesus said, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). Hurricane speaks of trouble and the severity of the damages increases as the category # increases. As a result, homes are destroyed, families are displaced, children are misplaced and in extreme cases, death can occur. Once the storm is over, the damages can be assessed, then rebuilding can occur.

Just as with the case with natural storms, such as hurricanes, marriages go through different storms. Are you and your spouse currently in a storm? Or, is there as storm brewing in your marriage? Is it a category-1 storm like communication issues, or a category-5 storm like chr...

Did you know that in any relationship, and especially marriage, what you think about yourself, your partner, and your relationship can determine if the marriage, or relationship will survive? Why? Because what you think, positively or negatively, controls you and affects others. What you think controls how you act, how you communicate, how you treat your mate and how you view our marriage.

“Negative thinking” can turn a good relationship into a bad one very quickly. You can think your relationship to death. Your relationship may be plagued with negative speaking and negative behavior because of negative thinking. Negative thinking can lead to the death of any relationship, especially your marriage.

Here is what the experts don’t want you to know about your thinking- you can learn how to think your marriage, or any relationship to life. I will show you a step by step approach on how to save your relationship through positive thinking.

The Effects of Negative Thinking

Negative thinki...

You have probably heard this saying, “Hard work pays off.” I remembered this statement becoming so real as I walked across the stage to receive my doctoral degree not so long ago. Every year around graduation season, millions of students celebrate the rewards of their hard work. Some students, however, are not able to reap the rewards of their hard work because of various reasons. I believe this is also true in marriage. Hard work pays off as a husband and a wife celebrate the rewards of their hard work. However, it becomes frustrating to a husband or a wife when it seems as though there are no rewards for all their hard work. I have talked with so many couples and I have concluded that, in marriage hard work do pay off, but the rewards are higher for “smart” work. Keep reading as I am going to share with you how to work smart in four key areas in your marriage.  

Husbands, you need to work smart at loving your wife, God’s way. 1 Cor 13:4-7 states, “Love is patient, love is kind. I...