Did you know that in any relationship, and especially marriage, what you think about yourself, your partner, and your relationship can determine if the marriage, or relationship will survive? Why? Because what you think, positively or negatively, controls you and affects others. What you think controls how you act, how you communicate, how you treat your mate and how you view our marriage.

“Negative thinking” can turn a good relationship into a bad one very quickly. You can think your relationship to death. Your relationship may be plagued with negative speaking and negative behavior because of negative thinking. Negative thinking can lead to the death of any relationship, especially your marriage.

Here is what the experts don’t want you to know about your thinking- you can learn how to think your marriage, or any relationship to life. I will show you a step by step approach on how to save your relationship through positive thinking.

The Effects of Negative Thinking

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You have probably heard this saying, “Hard work pays off.” I remembered this statement becoming so real as I walked across the stage to receive my doctoral degree not so long ago. Every year around graduation season, millions of students celebrate the rewards of their hard work. Some students, however, are not able to reap the rewards of their hard work because of various reasons. I believe this is also true in marriage. Hard work pays off as a husband and a wife celebrate the rewards of their hard work. However, it becomes frustrating to a husband or a wife when it seems as though there are no rewards for all their hard work. I have talked with so many couples and I have concluded that, in marriage hard work do pay off, but the rewards are higher for “smart” work. Keep reading as I am going to share with you how to work smart in four key areas in your marriage.  

Husbands, you need to work smart at loving your wife, God’s way. 1 Cor 13:4-7 states, “Love is patient, love is kind. I...

Okay married folks, the question is, “Is the grass greener on the other side?” I am sure you have heard this statement before. I’m sure this has crossed your mind. Have you ever looked at another couple and said, “I wish my husband could be like her husband or I wish my wife could be more like his wife?” This statement can appear to be true when you are not satisfied in your current marital situation. Before we go any further, let me unpack, what I usually like to call, “the marriage garden.”

I love performing weddings and from the moment the bride enters the room, walks down the aisle, and meets the groom, the entire room is in awe. Why? Because, marriage is a beautiful thing and sometimes I like to think of marriage as a beautiful garden. Almost every marriage starts out as this beautiful marriage garden. The flowers are blooming, the trees are well groomed, the grass is trimmed and ultra-green, and there are butterflies. The love is strong and the glow from the husband and wife ...

To build a lasting marriage means, to build your marriage on a lasting foundation. I have heard some people say, “My marriage is built on love and trust.” Others have said, “My marriage is built on peace and happiness.” Some would not dare say, even if true, “My marriage is built on lies, deception, money, lust and selfishness.” What matters is what God says a marriage should be built on.   

In Matthew 7:24-26, Jesus speaks of two builders. One who built his house on the rock and one who built his house on the sand. Then the rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew on both houses. However, only the house that was built on the rock did not fall.

It is the same with marriages. When issues, problems, and the pressures of life comes against your marriage, only those marriages built on the rock, which is Jesus, will be able to stand.  

I have found that it is okay to seek out help in the building process. Have a mentor or coach to help you along the way. Be apart of a small grou...