Okay married folks, the question is, “Is the grass greener on the other side?” I am sure you have heard this statement before. I’m sure this has crossed your mind. Have you ever looked at another couple and said, “I wish my husband could be like her husband or I wish my wife could be more like his wife?” This statement can appear to be true when you are not satisfied in your current marital situation. Before we go any further, let me unpack, what I usually like to call, “the marriage garden.”

I love performing weddings and from the moment the bride enters the room, walks down the aisle, and meets the groom, the entire room is in awe. Why? Because, marriage is a beautiful thing and sometimes I like to think of marriage as a beautiful garden. Almost every marriage starts out as this beautiful marriage garden. The flowers are blooming, the trees are well groomed, the grass is trimmed and ultra-green, and there are butterflies. The love is strong and the glow from the husband and wife ...

Can two walk together, unless they agreed? This question has been on my mind and I am sure on the minds of some of my readers. What I find very interesting about marriage is that God allows two persons, (male and female) to be joined together in marriage and then He says, "I want you two to just, get along. Not just to get along, but to get along until death do you part." However, many couples find it very difficult at best, to "get along" with their spouse. If that describes you, keep reading.

After being married for over 12 years, helping numerous couples, and extensively researching marriage for my doctoral studies, I have found that every successful marriage includes 3 areas of agreement between the husband and the wife.

Agreement #1. God is the supreme change agent for my spouse.

This agreement is huge in successful marriages. Romans 12:2 states, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good...